Paul has trained and mentored people for over 30 years as a keynote speaker all over the world. 

He believes that everyone has huge but often untapped potential and helping them to discover and release it is his passion.

He now focuses on three main passions - Communication, Leadership & Growing People.

A lot of you will recognise Paul’s voice from episode 237 on 3rd May 2021: Paul Scanlon on The Art of Unlearning, Developing ‘Get Back Up’ Skills When Life Gets Difficult and Why It’s Okay To Outgrow People! - which is linked in description below as well. 

 “Don’t blame a clown for acting like a clown, ask yourself why you keep going to the circus?” 

Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s podcast: 

• Getting “unstuck” in a relationship, a job or a health/fitness/wellness journey 
• Why you shouldn’t be doing life with people that exhaust you! 
• Self-acceptance vs self-love and the reason its so difficult to grow
• The reason you should stay away from people who make you feel hard to love! 
• The beauty of not fitting in!
• Why should you stop trying to forget something bad somebody once did to you and focus on remembering and softening instead!
• Never make yourself small or dial yourself down just to suit somebody else
• Finding your “no” voice
• And more 

(Website)

Personal Growth & Leadership Coaching | Paul Scanlon

(Facebook)

Facebook

(Instagram)

Paul Scanlon (@paulscanlonuk) • Instagram photos and videos

@paulscanlonuk

(LinkedIn)

Paul Scanlon - Motivational Speaker - Paul Scanlon business | LinkedIn

(Youtube)

Paul Scanlon - YouTube

(Twitter)

Paul Scanlon (@paulscanlonuk) / X (twitter.com)

(Paul Scanlon appearance on the Brian Keane Podcast)

Episode 237

#237: Paul Scanlon on The Art of Unlearning, Developing ‘Get Back Up’ Skills When Life Gets Difficult and Why It’s Okay To Outgrow People! - Brian Keane Fitness

Glenn is a veteran psychologist and was the long-time CEO of a multi-million dollar consulting firm which has serviced several Fortune 500 clients in the food industry

A lot of you will remember Glenn from our widely popular episode in July 2021 episode 339 – Glenn Livingston on food addictions, overeating and how to never binge again! 

His new book Defeat Your Cravings – the back door to weight loss is available now everywhere books are around. 

Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s podcast: 

•  Misunderstood craving triggers
• Why we are hardwired to crave food and how it’s our environment that’s the problem, not our biology
• How to avoid randomly reinforcing negative food cravings 
• The role motivation and willpower plays 
• The recovery plan if you binge. 
• How character trumps willpower and identity theory 
• And much more. 

Episode 339: https://briankeanefitness.libsyn.com/339-glenn-livingston-phd-on-food-addiction-overeating-and-how-to-never-binge-again

(Website)

https://www.defeatyourcravings.com/

(Facebook)

https://www.facebook.com/people/Defeat-Your-Cravings/61550719047966/

(Twitter)

https://twitter.com/DYCGlenn

(Instagram)

https://www.instagram.com/defeatyourcravings/

Glenn Livingston (@livingstonglenn) • Instagram photos and videos

Ryan is the multiple times best-selling author and founder of Designing the Mind.

His central purpose is to provide wisdom, education and expand human potential beyond the norm.

This journey has led him to write multiple bestselling books like Designing the Mind: The Principles of Psychitecture, build life-changing programs like The Anxiety Algorithm, and launch Mindform, the world’s first psychitecture collective and training platform. 

Through his books, programs, and community, he works to integrate the insights of ancient and modern thinkers to form a new vision for psychological growth and self-mastery.

 “Our goal is not freedom from the algorithms that make up our minds, but the autonomy to transform the algorithms which don't serve us into algorithms which do.” 

Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s podcast 

• The story of getting depressed that led Ryan to a new theory of mental health 
• Why you need to break the worry/rumination suffering cycle
• Exercise and the link with mental health
• The resources to stop managing anxiety and start mastering it 
• How to stop limiting yourself and removing barrier stories in your personal life
• And more..

(Website)

Designing the Mind: Guide to Psychitecture and Self-Mastery

(Youtube)

(1)   Ryan at Designing the Mind - YouTube

(Reddit)

(2)   Psychitecture (reddit.com)

(Tiktok)

Designing the Mind (@designing_the_mind) | TikTok

(Instagram)

Designing the Mind (@designing_the_mind) • Instagram photos and videos

(Twitter)

Profile / X (twitter.com)

( Website Products)

Designing the Mind: The Principles of Psychitecture

Gerry is the best-selling author of Awaken Your Power Within, a co-founder of soul space and a high performance and health coach. 

His new book The Freedom Within presents us with the secrets of releasing untapped reservoirs of strength and calm to live with more confidence, ease and an incredible sense of inner peace in our lives. 

His first appearance on the podcast episode 341: The Soul Coach Gerry Hussey on The Power Of Letting Go, Awakening Your Power Within and The Path To Your True Self was the most downloaded episode of 2021 so I highly recommend checking it out after this episode if you haven’t listened already. 

We picked up right from where we left off on our first episode together. Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s podcast: 

• Chasing the feeling of being enough and how this leads us down a path of toxic people or destructive behaviors 
• Healing emotional wounds from the past and learning to integrate them so they don’t control you any longer 
• Why we can only operate out of a place of fear or love – never both.
• The “unlovable” core wound and working through it 
• Why learning to forgive yourself is the biggest gift you can ever give yourself
• The reason we have to face it to feel it to heal it and then we can move on
• And more. 

Tickets to national concert hall https://www.nch.ie/Online/default.asp?BOparam::WScontent::loadArticle::permalink=The-Freedom-Within-12Nov23&BOparam::WScontent::loadArticle::context_id=

Awaken the freedom within book 

https://www.easons.com/the-freedom-within-gerry-hussey-9781399727082?gclid=CjwKCAjwkY2qBhBDEiwAoQXK5SzpxT6c_J1Mdmslx9_sv8mJUKvd1ai9o1YwCBbrI-D4L8pijnCywxoCGq4QAvD_BwE

(Webpage)

Soul Space - Change Your Thinking // Change Your World

(LinkedIn)

Gerry Hussey - Co-Founder | Integrative Health and Wellness Coach - Soul Space | LinkedIn

(Instagram)

Gerry Hussey - THE SOUL COACH (@gerry_hussey) • Instagram photos and videos

@gerry_hussey

(Twitter)

 Gerry Hussey (@gerryhussey) / X (twitter.com)

(Youtube)

Soul Space - Miriam & Gerry Hussey - YouTube

(Facebook)

Facebook

(Most recent Instagram post)

Gerry Hussey - THE SOUL COACH (@gerry_hussey) • Instagram photos and videos

Talia is the CEO of KUSI Global, Inc. She holds an M.Ed. in counseling psychology from Howard University and she is a Harvard University Fellow. 

An inspirational leader in every sense of the word, Talia is often referred to as the Jedi of Inspiration by her clients. With over two decades of experience in transforming thousands of executives from all sectors, she has become a visionary for leadership and legacy building. 

In her new book, The Power of Conscious Connection with a foreword by Robin Sharma (a previous guest of the podcast and a personal favorite human being of mine), she addresses the growing mental health and mental well-being crisis and ways to protect our own mental health, parent differently, and develop awareness and compassion for the neurodiverse.

Here are some of the things we talk about in today’s podcast:

• The framework L.O.V.E.” (Listen, Observe, Value, Engage).
• Why we can feel so disconnected, isolated and alone even when there are loads of people around us 
• Learning how to listen to receive and hear vs listening to react and why deep listening is the key to mental health!
• How to avoid anxiety loops and use anxiety on feedback on what needs to change in our lives
• Playing the ‘identity game’ to break past self-created boundaries or limitations in your life 
• Why your interactions with others can feel fake and rehearsed if you feel lost or stuck
• And more. 

(Website)

KUSI Home - KUSI Global, Inc. (kusitraining.com)

(Instagram)

Talia Fox (@taliafoxspeaks) • Instagram photos and videos

@taliafoxspeaks

(YouTube)

Talia Fox - YouTube

(Twitter)

https://twitter.com/TaliaFoxSpeaks

(Amazon Book listing)

The Power of Conscious Connection: 4 Habits to Transform How You Live and Lead: Fox, Talia: 9781646871353: Amazon.com: Books

This is from episode 130 of my other show 'The Online Business Podcast' - you can subscribe or follow that everywhere podcasts are found. 

The clips I posted of this episode have nearly half a million views so I am uploading the full episode on my main show. 

I hope it helps you as much as it helped me. 

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Paul is considered one of Ireland’s leading financial advisors, is an internationally recognized CFP® (Certified Financial Planner), as certified by the Financial Planning Standards Board (FPSB).

With his straight-talking no-nonsense approach to money and business, he regularly features on TV, radio &, with an ever-growing social following he has quickly become Ireland’s favorite financial advisor.

Paul Merriman CFP® launched askpaul in 2016 to provide jargon-free expert financial advice to the Irish consumer and provide advice that is centered around them, keeping their best interests at heart

This is a podcast that I think is must listen for every Irish person (business owner or otherwise)

Here are some of the thing we talked about:

·      His social media growth since 2016

·      What Irish people need to know about investing

·      Why “a mortgage is the cheapest loan you will ever get” advice s wrong in 2023/2-24

·      Where you should be investing your money

·      What feels like free money (that nobody talks about)– the Irish pension schemes

·      Improving your financial literacy as an Irish investor

·      And much more

(Website)

Ask About Money & Financial Advice in Ireland | askpaul

(Tiktok)

askpaul (@askpaul) Official | TikTok

(Instagram)

Paul Merriman (@askpaul.ie) • Instagram photos and videos

(Youtube)

askpaul The Financial Expert - YouTube

(Facebook)

Facebook

(Linkedin)

askpaul -The Financial Experts | LinkedIn

Pat Divilly is #1 best-selling author of ‘Fit Mind’ and specializes in deep coaching men’s work, somatic healing and breathwork. 

He is also a podcast host, speaker and retreat host. 

Pat has been one of my biggest personal inspirations when it came to leaving my career as a teacher to start my own fitness business 11 years ago and he continues to inspire me to this day. 

Today’s conversation goes quite deep and I want to thank Pat for holding the space for me to share some of the raw issues I’m currently working through. 

“If you don’t heal your wounds – you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you” – Pat Divilly 

Here are some of the things we talked about. 

• If you don’t heal your wounds – you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you and how to transform your pain
• Our core wounds from childhood 
• Dealing with breakups and moving through heartache
• Triggers as teachers and the role projection plays in how we move through the world
• Integrating the shadow and the parts of ourselves we willfully or blind fully ignore so we don’t fee that ‘emptiness or voidness’ inside anymore 
• How trauma is stored in the body and how to release it 
• And much more. 

(Website)

Pat Divilly Coaching, Podcast and Breathwork

(Facebook)

Facebook

(Twitter)

Pat Divilly (@PatDivilly) / X (twitter.com)

(Instagram)

Pat Divilly (@patdivilly) • Instagram photos and videos

Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fit-Mind-change-soundtrack-greatness/dp/071719132X/ref=asc_df_071719132X/?tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=534959025250&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16250362140917389261&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1007850&hvtargid=pla-1506647480806&psc=1&th=1&psc=1

Breathwork: https://www.patdivilly.com/breathwork

Masculine leadership program: https://www.patdivilly.com/masculineleadership

This was my recent appearance on The eating disorder therapist podcast.

I really enjoyed this chat and Harriet asked some questions that I have never previously covered in much detail such as my history with disordered eating and body dysmorphia. I hope it helps. 

You can follow and listen to Harriet's show below. 

https://www.theeatingdisordertherapist.co.uk/the-eating-disorder-therapist-podcast.html

Susan is an intimacy expert to millions.

She specialises in offering libido advice and sexual vitality secrets through her website betterlover.com

As the co-founder of both Personal Life Media and The20, she’s an authority in intimate biohacking, natural solutions to boosting libido, and non-invasive treatments that improve vitality for both men and women. 

I have put the explicit content warning in the title as some of this conversation is quite graphic sexually and may cause discomfort for some listeners. 

Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s podcast.

• Backstory into why she feels passionate about taking science into the bedroom

• Avoiding sexual stagnations 

• Your sex bucket list

• Building sexual confidence and having the difficult conversation to improve your sex life

• Aphrodisiacs and the top 5 botanicals for better sex 

• Painful sex, erectile dysfunction and navigating the discomfort around topics we don’t talk about 

• and more 

(Website)

Susan Bratton – "Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions"

(Twitter)

@susanbratton

Susan Bratton💋 Threads and OF (@SusanBratton) / X (twitter.com)

(Instagram)

@susanbratton

💥Susan Bratton💥 (@susanbratton) • Instagram photos and videos

(Facebook)

(1) Facebook

(Books and products)

Products – Susan Bratton

Amazon.com: Sexual Soulmates: The Six Essentials for Connected Sex: 9781976577062: Bratton, Susan: Books

(Recent podcast)

Hotter Than Health Podcast With Eliza Gellman – Susan Bratton

(Youtube)

Susan Bratton - Better Lover - YouTube

(LinkedIn)

Susan Bratton - CEO - The20, LLC. | LinkedIn

https://onlyfans.com/susanbratton

Solo Q+A with Brian. 

All questions sent in through Instagram brian_keane_fitness – feel free to follow if you’re not already and like, review and subscribe to the podcast if you found any of these questions helpful. 

1.     Can you eat too much protein in a single meal? 00:53

2.     How to get more leads in my business? 07:33

3.     I have lost almost 20kg but struggling with my new body and people commenting. 08:55

4.     Tips for how to correct and reduce overactive traps? 15:41

5.     Are audiobooks as good as physically reading? 22:52

6.     I’m a GAA player, why am I so sluggish come game day even if I have a rest day and did a carb load?  25:44

7.     How do I educate my daughter that ‘fat’ isn’t bad for her? 28:26

8.     If my goal is to build muscle whilst running 3km after a bodybuilding session, should I really drop my 3km run? 35:15

Shownotes: 

BKF Online Program 

https://briankeanefitness.com/bkf-online/

GAA Lean Body Program 

https://briankeanefitness.com/lean-body-program/

The Online Business Podcast 

https://open.spotify.com/show/5kEEFCKnpUYLF0S66tQIWD

The Lean Body Podcast for GAA Players 

https://open.spotify.com/show/3o5Elb7Lw98fbkULnE3fOh

This was my recent appearance on The Rebalanced Podcast. 

I really enjoyed this chat and Robbie asked some questions that I have never previously covered such as decision making and managing risk (in business, relationships and life) so I hope it helps. 

You can follow and listen to Robbie's show below. 

https://open.spotify.com/show/10isJf3fK94flKgnpt8NEb

Today is another solo press ‘record and talk’ style episode. I hope it helps. 

1.     Confusion  01:22

You don’t know what to do or where to start

2.     Apathy 05:01

You feel like you don’t care about it

3.     Fixed Mindset 12:11

You don’t actually believe you can do it

4.     Lethargy 19:28

You simply don’t have the energy to focus on the task

5.     Fear 24:57

You are intimidated by the task at hand

6.     Regret 30:43

You already feel you have failed so you’re starting to give up

7.     Identity 36:49

You’ve just resigned yourself to being a lazy person

Quick links to all my programs, courses and books

 https://briankeanefitness.com/quick-links/

Rob Lipsett is an athlete, physique competitor, youtuber and entrepreneur.

Most of you will know Rob, either from following his massive YouTube channel of over 470k followers and his Instagram page with over 650k followers, but this is also his hat trick appearance on the podcast. 

He was on all the way back on Episode 80 and again for episode 205 (both will be linked in the episode description).

On top of running, owning and being a part of several businesses, he is also the host of the podcast The Game Plan (named after his best-selling book) , which can be found everywhere podcasts are found. 

Rob is always brilliant to speak with and I think this third episode is the best yet. 

Here are some of the things we talked about on today’s podcast: 

• Where motivation comes from
• Monk mode and when to use it to get sh*t done
• Deep work, being productive and finding passion in your life 
• The question everyone needs to ask themselves regularly 
• The importance of choosing the right spouse or partner 
• Learning from past relationship and business failures
• And much more. 

(Website)

Home | Rob Lipsett | Online Coaching | Ebooks| Training Plans

(Instagram)

Rob Lipsett (@roblipsett) • Instagram photos and videos

(Facebook)

Facebook

(Twitter)

Rob Lipsett (@RobLipsett) / X (twitter.com)

(Youtube)

Rob Lipsett - YouTube

(Products)

Fuel Cakes | by Rob Lipsett

Rob’s first appearance: https://briankeanefitness.com/podcast/80-rob-lipsett-infectious-positivity-loving-gym-using-stories-build-social-media-empire/

Rob’s second appearance: https://briankeanefitness.com/podcast/205-rob-lipsett-on-the-rte-steroid-documentary-competing-again-and-romantic-relationships-in-the-public-eye/

Oisin is a fat loss coach who runs the Mulligainz Method. 

His Instagram and TikTok both have over half a million followers. 

On his channels he shares simple and practical tips on fat loss and healthy living. 

He has also been featured in mainstream media for his viral content on eating McDonalds every day and still losing weight. This wasn’t to promote fast food; but to highlight the role that a calorie deficit plays when pure weight loss is the goal. 

Oisin has a very engaging personal story and is an incredibly self-aware individual. This was an extremely enjoyable conversation that spans across a whole host of different topics. 

Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s show: 

• His own personal weight loss journey and going from 130kg to a lean, healthy and happy weight. 
• His mental health issues, the importance of having good people around you and how he manages it now
• How the bully from childhood can form the bully in your head if you don’t change your self talk
• The biggest weight loss negative behaviours people need to avoid
• And much more.   

Live from Elevate 2023

Shownotes: 

Irish man who proved he could eat McDonald’s every day and lose weight reflects on impact of TikTok challenge - Irish Mirror Online

(website)

The Mulligainz Method Challenge (mulligainzfitness.com)

(Program)

The Mulligainz Method Waiting List (mulligainzfitness.com)

 (youtube)

Oisin mulligan - YouTube

(Facebook)

Facebook

(Instagram)

Oisín Mulligan 🇮🇪 | Online Coach (@mulligainz_fitness) • Instagram photos and videos

(Tiktok)

Oisin Mulligan Fat Loss Coach (@mulligainz_fitness) | TikTok

Dr. Grayson is a behavior change communications consultant who teaches about Public Health Communications in the Master of Public Health Program in the Larner College of Medicine at the University of Vermont. 

Her life changed in 2016 when she suddenly realized that she had been concealing a lifelong dependence on sugar and carbs beneath a web of denial (“It’s just a sweet tooth”) and rationalization (“I’ve been good so deserve a treat”). 

After she taught herself to quit, she started helping others do the same by creating the program Breaking Free from Sugar, which has helped over 3,000 people successfully reduce how much sugar they eat. That program is shared in her book “The Sweet Tooth Dilemma”.

In today’s podcast, we discuss all things sugar and what we can do to get it under control to improve our waistline, mood and energy levels.

Here is what we talked about: 

• Processed and refined vs natural sugar – what you need to know 
• The difference between sugar and food addictions 
• The porridge to avoid when trying to manage blood sugar levels 
• The 5 pathways of sugar dependency 
• Sugar misconceptions 
• The non-obvious things to avoid
• And more

Shownotes: 

(Website)

 http://createchangelab.com

(Facebook)

http://facebook.com/createchangelab

(Instagram)

http://instagram.com/createchangelab

(LinkedIn)

http://linkedin.com/in/agrayson

(Books)

Publishing – ReadKit (createchangelab.com)

Rhiannon is a Registered Nutritionist, 4X Sunday Times best selling author, and mum. 

She is also the host of the Food For Thought Podcast and founder of both Rhitriotnplus  supplements and Rhitrition clinic, London’s leading private nutrition clinic.

Her Instagram page is full of great recipes, nutrition tips and cuts through a lot of the nonsense you sometimes see no social media. 

Rhiannon has one of my favorite nutrition Instagram pages so I’m delighted we got to have this conversation. 

Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s show: 

• What to be aware of with influencers promoting diets online
• Psychology and food vs miseducation around food 
• Frozen food and sweetener misconceptions 
• Her biggest pet peeve in nutrition and the misuse of weight loss drugs
• Ultra-processed vs processed food 
• The real downside of calorie counting 
• Plant based misconceptions – building muscle, health and performance 
• The role your gut microbiome plays
• And much more 

(Website)

Rhitrition

(Instagram)

RHIANNON LAMBERT BSc MSc RNutr (@rhitrition) • Instagram photos and videos

(Podcast)

Food For Thought on Apple Podcasts

(Youtube)

Nutritionist Rhiannon Lambert - YouTube

(LinkedIn)

Rhiannon Lambert BSc MSc RNutr - Registered Nutritionist - Rhitrition | LinkedIn

(Twitter)

Rhiannon Lambert (@Rhitrition) / X (twitter.com)       

Today’s podcast is a solo episode. 

As opposed to a recap podcast or even going through what happened in detail (as I sum that up in about 5 minutes) – I talk through some of the mindset elements I struggled with the most: expecting the unexpecting, just because something is difficult doesn’t make it valuable, not forcing things to happen etc

Hopefully there is a value here regardless of what stage of life you are in or the difficulties you may be currently going through. 

Short written recap: 

As some of you know, I flew out to Kyrgyzstan (beside China) to run 200km over five days up the Tian Shan mountain range. The plan was to hike for three days to acclimatize to the altitude and then run for 5 days up Tian Shan; but unfortunately, after picking up an infection in the capital Bishek, I only made basecamp 1 before I got hit with severe sickness. 

Here’s the story about it and what I learnt from the experience. 

Shownotes: 

Quick links to all my programs, courses and books

 https://briankeanefitness.com/quick-links/

BTU discount code: KEANE300

Today’s podcast is a solo episode. 

As opposed to a recap podcast or even going through what happened in detail (as I sum that up in about 5 minutes) – I talk through some of the mindset elements I struggled with the most: expecting the unexpecting, just because something is difficult doesn’t make it valuable, not forcing things to happen etc

Hopefully there is a value here regardless of what stage of life you are in or the difficulties you may be currently going through. 

Short written recap: 

As some of you know, I flew out to Kyrgyzstan (beside China) to run 200km over five days up the Tian Shan mountain range. The plan was to hike for three days to acclimatize to the altitude and then run for 5 days up Tian Shan; but unfortunately, after picking up an infection in the capital Bishek, I only made basecamp 1 before I got hit with severe sickness. 

Here’s the story about it and what I learnt from the experience. 

Shownotes: 

Quick links to all my programs, courses and books

 https://briankeanefitness.com/quick-links/

BTU discount code: KEANE300

Harriet is an eating disorder therapist. 

She is BACP Accredited Counsellor and her goal is to support people with eating disorder therapy, to find peace with food and their body image. 

After experiencing her own journey in overcoming Bulimia Nervosa, she is passionate about helping others, using therapy to empower them with the hope, tools and psychology for change.

She is also the host of The Eating Disorder Podcast.

Trigger warning: if you have a history of disordered eating, body image issues or an eating disorder, this episode may contain topics that upset you. 

Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s show: 

• The disordered eating to eating disorder spectrum
• Breaking the shame and guilt cycles
• What triggers disordered eating
• The role self-esteem plays
• Binge eating and purging behaviors 
• How to become more food neutral and not letting it control your life
• And much more. 

(Links)

(Instagram)

HARRIET FREW (@theeatingdisordertherapist_) on Instagram

(Twitter)

HARRIET FREW (@HARRIETFREW1) / Twitter

(Facebook)

Facebook

(LinkedIn)

HARRIET FREW - Community Eating Disorder Therapist - Cambridgeshire and Peterborough NHS Foundation Trust (CPFT) | LinkedIn

(Website)

Online course - Learn Intuitive Eating with Harriet Frew - THE EATING DISORDER THERAPIST

THE EATING DISORDER THERAPIST - The Eating Disorder Therapist Harriet Frew

This episode first aired on 26th April 2021

Are you enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating and a review.

Logan is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone.

As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google’s behavioral science team—the Irrational Lab.

Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME. The Washington Post, GQ, Glamour, Vice, and on HBO and the BBC.

Today’s podcast goes deep on all things dating and relationships. It’s a full-circle podcast from meeting someone to breakups and finding the one—we cover it all today. Also, I touch on some of my personal attachment styles and previous dating tendencies; so, today’s episode goes through some new topics not previously explored on the podcast.

Key Points

· Each of the three dating tendencies have to do with unrealistic expectations. The romanticizer has unrealistic expectations of relationships. The maximizer has unrealistic expectations of their partner. The hesitator has unrealistic expectations of themselves. Unrealistic expectations of any kind create huge problems because, even if things are going great, the person is never satisfied with what they have at present.

· Our society has become obsessed with “the spark”: the idea of instant chemistry, that pang of connection; that feeling when you walk into a room and everything else fades and you can only focus on that person. Now, the spark is a wonderful thing; but you should not be selecting your long-term life partner based on it as it’s nothing more than a first impression. Instead, go for the slow burn and get to know the person beyond first impressions.

· Becoming ready for marriage is a matter of the level of your intentionality. You have to exercise the same muscles that you do to strengthen your growth mindset and goal-orientedness and know how you want your future to look. With regard to marriage itself, ask yourself a series of questions, such as whether you see yourself with your

partner in the long run and how you’ve both weathered conflict. Then, ask your partner questions such as how many kids you want to have, the religion you want to raise them on, and how you want to manage your finances.

Michelle is a licensed therapist, integrated life coach, author and speaker. 

She is also the host of the Podcast The Adult Chair Podcast where she helps people to become emotionally healthy adults. 

The Adult Chair model is an integrated approach that will help you recognize how all of your life experiences have shaped you — and then use that awareness to regain control, discover your most authentic self and transform your life!   

By looking at all of the parts that make up who we are today, we are able to gain greater awareness of why we do what we do, identify conscious and unconscious wounds that hold us back and transform the way these wounds

Enjoyed this episode? Please rate, review and subscribe. 

Here are some of the things we talked about in today’s show: 

• The importance of inner child work 
• Why we numb out with food, exercise, shopping, porn etc. 
• Not letting your ‘adolescent self’ run your relationships or career choices
• Why our triggers are a gift
• Making friends with that negative or mean inner voice 
• The false self-overlay and how it stops you connecting to your true self
• The barriers to developing self-love and how you need to learn the lessons about how to actually do it 
• And much more

(LINKS)

(WEBSITE)

https://theadultchair.com/

(FACEBOOK)

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This episode first aired on 12th April 2021

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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality and the host of the longest-running sexual wellness podcast Sex with Emily. She is also the best-selling author of the book Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight.

Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives.

Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.

Warning: This podcast is content of an adult nature.

This is a very wide-ranging conversation around all things sex (for single people and those in relationships) but here are some of thing things we talked about in today’s podcast:

Key Points

· Pleasure is our birthright, and it goes beyond sex. We should be deliberately setting aside time everyday to go toward those things that give us pleasure. For one reason or another, there are times when we feel the need to stifle or numb pleasurable feelings. In the context of sex, this is one of the big reasons many topics have become taboo, and why many men and women find having these conversations with their partners very uncomfortable.

· A lot of people believe that scheduling sex is the least sexy thing you can do because it just seems like another task instead of being spontaneous. But the whole point of scheduling sex is that everyone is so busy nowadays that everything is prioritized before sex. Before we know it, days, or even weeks, go by and nothing happens. By having sex

scheduled, you incentivize yourself to prepare for it and make it worthwhile for both partners.

· “When we heal ourselves sexually, we heal so many other parts of our life.” Many people look at sex as an “outlier”. Physical, mental, and spiritual health are all the rage now, and sexual health is like the “bastard child” of the wellness industry. On the extreme end, some people have experienced sexual assault. For most others, there is low self-esteem around one’s sex life. Once we come to terms with these “underlying roadblocks” to a healthy sex life—perhaps via therapy, other times by simply having open conversations with our partner about sex—other areas of our life improve, such as having boosts in our immune system, serotonin, and other feel-good hormones.