#326: Logan Ury on Dating, Attachment Styles, How To Break Up With Someone, Finding Love and How To Build A Relationship That Lasts!

Logan is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. 

 

As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google’s behavioral science team—the Irrational Lab. 

 

Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME. The Washington Post, GQ, Glamour, Vice, and on HBO and the BBC. 

 

Today’s podcast goes deep on all things dating and relationships. It’s a full circle podcast from meeting someone to break ups and finding the one so we cover it all today.  Also, I touched on some of my personal attachment styles and previous dating tendencies; so, today’s episode goes through some new topics not previously explored on the podcast. 

Enjoy.

 

Here are some of things we talked about: 

 

•     Why dating is harder now than ever before and how to understand the challenges of modern dating 

 

•     The three dating tendencies, the romanticizer, the maximiser and the hesitator 

 

•     How to discover your dating blind spots and how Disney lied to us

 

•     Learn your attachment style and using that information to get out of your own way

 

•     The difference between looking for a life partner and a prom date (the person who looks good in photos)

 

•     How to focus on what matters in a long-term partner 

 

•     F**k the spark and how to reject myths about instant chemistry 

 

•     How to decide if you should see someone again 

 

•     How to decide if you should break up  and how to break up with someone

 

•     Dealing with heartbreak and reframing your breakup as a gain, not a loss

 

•     Deciding if you should get married, if they’re ‘the one’ and how to build a relationship that lasts

 

SHOWNOTES:

Logan’s Website: https://www.loganury.com/

Logan’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loganury/?hl=en

Logan’s LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/loganury

 

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